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Nyani, the next mommy took me to her GP. Everything was fine with the
Junior. Yes, I was carrying a boy. Mom wasted no time and called dad. I
guess being the only child has its benefits because my parents were
overjoyed. I got my medication and went straight home. Mom had decided
sizoya eKostad the next day as she was just too overjoyed. Daddy ke yena
ebebawela nokundi buyisa ndizohlala nabo. Strange enough, the baby daddy
issue was the most ignored.


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My parents had bought me maternity clothes, another school tracksuit and
bigger shirts and school jersey. Mommy even insisted they get me an ozone
foot massager. Hehehehehe, benditefiswa straight.
Schools reopened and they took me back and bought me all the necessities
of apregnant woman. The GP from back had given me a medical file to
hand over to the GP I would attend at PMB so that ingazu sokolisa when
they have to transfer me to a gynaecologist.
At school, it was known am pregnant and there were those who were
judgemental and making fun of me, but hey, it is life. Not everyone will like
you.

Slie would fight my battles, accompany me to my gynae's appointments and
also bare my whining. Mom and dad visited every 2weeks.
Sthe tried by all means reaching out to me, but besendi monyanyy ngeyona
ndlela. Slie used to say ndiyamaliswa. There were days that I would cry for
Mondli, phinde ndixole.


Attending school was tough, but I had to keep up for my child's sake. I had
to build a future for us since daddy dearest was no longer in our lives, and
was being a jailbird. I won't lie and say I was over Mondli because I was
not. I loved that man despite everything. I had given him my worth and he
had given me a child, a boy. We both had a part of each other, but then
again, I guess fate wasn't on our side. Not everyone has a soulmate, and I
had proven it ngam. I didn't have one.


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Final exams were tough. I was heavily pregnant by the time we finished.
Seven months, three weeks. I had stretch marks but my mom assured me
they would disappear after giving birth. UBoy ebeyikhaba into sana hay
khona xa ndingakhe ndidibane nesisibhanxa singu Sthe, ebevele atsho
ndiphelelwe ngumoya. Other than he's kicking techniques, he was a behaved
unborn baby. I didn't go in and out of ER.
After my final paper, Dad came to get me. I packed all my belongings and
said goodbye to Pietermaritzburg, but more importantly, my best friend,
Slindile Mthethwa ...


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The whole of December, Sthe tried calling me, begging that I ask my family
to take me to theirs, regarding the baby. Sometimes he would tell me about
mondli and so on. Funny thing is, never once did he tell me that Mondli
said he loved me or miss me, everything was just about the unborn baby.


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28 January, I gave birth to a 2,8kg baby boy, Kungawo Bhongo Mlambi.
Ebenemhle umntanam esenza umunyu. Ebefana noyise lento idikayo, nto le
bekhe ndibone ba iyamkhuba utata.
After 2weeks ndibelekile, I sent Sthe a pic of the baby. He begged me to
allow him to come see him but ndala. I felt like me, trying to build a
relationship for my son and his paternal family would be ndiyazi thandisa.
Mondli really did not want us in his life. He never even bothered to call and
check up on us.


Since bendihleli ndingafundi, dad had suggested second trimester ndiye
eGamalakhe TVET, just for ukuqhuba unyaka and ndibe kufuphi noBhongo.
Ewe ebelibhongo lomntwana kubazali bam, kwaye nakum na. Ubungafunga
ukuba ngowabo ndlela bebemthanda ngayo. Ebengqale elala nabo, ehlanjwa
ngumama, yonke man lonto.

Whilst ndilinde isecond trimester, I got my learners, and immediately went
to book driving lessons. I remember, bekuzi 15 ku February. I had booked
for full lessons, nasekhaya utata engandi pholelanga. Ebendi nyanzelisa
ukuba ndibenazo iimpepha zokuqhuba, esithi imisebenzi seyifunyanwa
ngazo. Bendisithi ndise driving school, ndibe ndisesikolweni seComputer.
Umntwana ubehlala no aunty ke yena for eloxesha ndisedolophini, ndenza
zonke ezizinto. EDriving school I was doubling my lessons, ndisenza
i2hours everyday ekseni, then ngo11 ekseni ndiyokwenza computer.
Computer was easy for me since I did CAT at school.

Early April, I got my driver's license for code 10, but dad insisted I go book
5 lessons for code8, bandifundise iParking. I really did not understand all
this fussing about driving because I didn't have a car, but I must say, am
glad I did it anyway.

I passed my 6weeks computer course and got my certificate.


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5 May was the first day for registration, and mama ebezondikhapha
noBhongo. I drove from eCasino ukuyofika eGamalakhe. It felt great. I opted
for Electrical Engineering, even though I wasn't sure about it because
bebekhala abanye abantwana besithi inzima. Registration was hectic and I
still had to find accommodation. I met some girl, Ongeziwe obezokwenza
Electrical N1 naye and obesazofuna indawo. She was there alone, so I
suggested ahambe nathi siyokhangela indawo. Mom suggested we find a
place eGamalakhe, for transport reasons. Beunzima ufumana imiqasho
eright but we ended up sifumana indlu engu 3Bedroom. ibiqashiswa as a
commune kuyi R1800 irent, meaning we only needed one more housemate.
It was fully furnished but mna khe ndacela ibhedi neengubo ezithi mna.


Mom:"heyake, ku worse eMaritzburg ubulala kweya phayana."
Me:"oh yhini, ndiyakucelela mama."
Mom:"yicele kutata. mfonele ngoku." Ebetsho kubani yena? ndikhwele
emnxebeni ndamcenga wade wavuma. Ndiyithengelwe ke ibhedi, door
handle for kamera yam, kunye nesikhencezisi ebendizosivalela ekamereni
yam. Iingubo bendizozithatha ekhaya ke zona.
uOngeziwe simbeke edolophini ezimotweni ezigodukayo, thina saleqa eHubb,
siyofuna iintwana ntwanana zam nezika Bhongo, then sagoduka.


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When schools opened, both my boy and parents accompanied me. Daddy
wayendithengele iCupboard encinci kwenye nje iPawn shop. We first went to
Clicks for the small electric appliances I was going to need and dishes and
cutlery eOK. I also did my groceries, ndashiywa ndinayo yonke into, kwaye
umama endipakishise kwanto. intliziyo yam ibibuhlungu ke ngosana lwam.
Ebezogqiba iinyanga ezine ndingekho.

pha emalanga Ongeziwe called me endibuza ukuba sendifikile na and she
told me she was in town with her dad, so I waited for them.
Yhu, usisiza, naye ebeziphathele eyakhe ibhedi, fridge and cupboard.
Bekukhona nobhuti wakhe omdala owenza iMedicine eUKZN. Engemhle man
umfana, besendi ngakwazi nokuthini ndlela le bendi blusher ngayo. I helped
Ongeziwe to properly set up her bedroomwhilst her dad offered to go get us
some takeaways since beseku late for upheka. Mna ke bendi stress free
ngoba bendikuthengelwe ukutya. Usele ke ubrothers, esincedisa apho na
apho, encokola noncokola. His name was Xola.


Ongeziwe's dad and brother left after 8pm. Sasala sihleli ekamereni ka
Ongeziwe. Bendimbiza OG kemna umhlobo wam.